Can I Get Some Feedback on That, Please?
[Be on your own side.]
[A can see you're trying to do x, y, z. Here's what seems to be helping with that. Recognize that they're doing their best.]
[Sometimes asking for feedback might be asking for permission.]
[Might be easier to receive exact feedback directed at someone else because you know they received it.]
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The Age of Community: Building, Growing and Changing the World
[Each person nominates the next person to introduce themselves, distribute the responsibility of delegating.]
[Sometimes things happen through second and third-order effects and you need to simply turn your back on the main thing.]
[An interest community can also be a place to make friends.]
[A community never dies because the principles that led to its coming together are still in play.]
[Empower and showcase.]
[Some domains like pottery still take time and do not change as technical paradigms accelerate. Email was slow but now is fast whereas making a pot takes days.]
[This is your community, take charge of it.]
[Suggest one project that inspires you.]
[Low hanging fruit can be industries that don't engage with people that are like you.]
[Tell more stories.]
[De no solamente tener amigos pero de sentir ellos,]
Hania Rani: Live from Studio S2
Live recording which makes me want to play the piano again. At various points she plays while touching the strings to create percussive sounds. The set merges electronic and acoustic, and she also sings on some tracks. It’s always special to see people pushing the boundaries of live music-making.
The Best of Mildred Bailey | Jazz Music (1930s)
This compilation of music features some lovely stride jazz piano. My first time hearing this singer.
Mixes complex harmonies with Brazilian dance rhythms, orchestra with folk instruments, and is generally a good time.
Sam Gendel and Sam Wilkes: Music for Saxofone and Bass Guitar (2018)
Full of strange and wonderfully creative sounds, beatboxing, and melody-less improvising, all of which were recorded live with something like loop pedals. I really dug the mouth percussion and head-banging stank face grooves on THEEM AND VARIATIONS; as well as the beat from dental fricatives on GREETINGS TO IDRIS. The inconspicuously-named TRACK ONE has this remarkable throat falsetto riff and manages to build a movement-inducing rhythm that simultaneously feels sparse and full-bodied, drizzled with a solo of quartal explorations on thirteenth chords.
[Internalizers don't act out their emotions immediately and instead let them foster and intensify.]
[The idea that one day they will change is a healing fantasy, created by a child's mind and not adapted to adult reality.]
[The child of emotionally immature parent creates a role-self that transforms into what the parent wants them to be.]
[The role-self has no energy of its own and needs to steal from true self. It is insecure because it's made-up and afraid of being revealed as an imposter.]
[Healing fantasy of people being there for me. Role-self of being available.]
John Collison – Growing the Internet Economy
[Products that succeed in the United States are not the same as those that succeed in other countries. The local customs in Indonesia, or even in the UK, can necessitate a different approach.]
[Anger is a normal response to abandonment, and we can experience it even when feeling unseen or unheard.]
[Enmeshment is different from emotional intimacy. The former implies fulfilling roles that re-inforce dependency whereas the latter implies building trust through getting to know each other and mutual acceptance.]
The Art of Productive Disagreement
[Being civil, skirting around difficult topics isn't enough.]
[Disagreement is rarely about facts, but about values.]
[Seeing what happens, making a prediction and then wait, implies there's nothing to argue about. Everyone learns something. It's a way of creating rituals.]
[Celebrate cognitive dissonance from being wrong because it's a sign of learning.]
[In new spaces, ask what is nobody allowed to talk about. The closer it is to the surface, the more taboo it might be.]
[Put the facts aside: what does each party want? what do they think is going to happen? How much is it going to change the future? Let's check back in a month, no rush to solve this, we'll still be friends, it's about our relationship.]
[Biases are functional and everyone needs them to survive.]
[Parental rejection can result in the child lacking confidence that others can be interested in them. Instead of asking for what they want, they avoid interacting out kf fear to burden someone else.]
[The need and desire for deep connection is not merely human, but genetic, coming from evolutionary imperative to be part of the group for survival.]
[Dismissively saying that one didn't mean it is a way to egocentrically focus on the intention as opposed to the negative impact of bad actions.]
[Not knowing who you are or being given space to explore it is like having puzzle pieces that don't fit together, which results in inconsistency.]
[Inconsistency can maladaptively bond the parent and child because the once in a while there is a reward.]
Pino Palladino + Blake Mills: Chris Dave
From Notes With Attachments (2021). Grooooooovy, jazzy, funky, with intricate clicking and clacking, and water glasses played with a violin bow.
Beautiful chaos from one of the free jazz greats: plenty of clashing notes, disjunct rhythms—everything’s broken as it should be.
Spectacular album title. Features traditional sounds and singing by Congo-based musicians mixed with modern production techniques. If you dig this, check out the Nihiloxica from #014. Lots of groovy, funky bits where I found myself practicing Rich Brown’s modal improvisation tips from #012.
