Rosano / Journal

484 entries for 2021

Monday, October 18, 2021

Sunday, October 17, 2021

Friday, October 15, 2021

Thursday, October 14, 2021

[You're living off the land in the digital world. Digital homesteading.]

[The basis of hintustani music is the raga. The basis of carnatic music is the composition.]

[Los Angeles suffers from an 'over the shoulder effect' where people are sometimes distracted while engaging with you, thinking about who's more interesting around.]

It's nice to be surprised, to talk about something we didn't expect to talk about. Avoiding expectations facilitation perpetual surprise?

Wednesday, October 13, 2021

Tuesday, October 12, 2021

Monday, October 11, 2021

Sunday, October 10, 2021

Friday, October 8, 2021

Thursday, October 7, 2021

Wednesday, October 6, 2021

[It's like they have a phobia of snakes and your openness and emotional connectivity are a bucket of slithery snakes.]

[Settle into a detached observational state by counting your breaths slowly, or tensing and relaxing your muscles in sequence.]

[Instead of associating them with a binary state, observe as a scientist: what words describe their facial expression? what is their body language communicating? does their voice sound calm or tense? how do they respond when you try to relate? what do you feel?]

[Getting emotional is a sign that your healing fantasy has been activated. The feeling of distress and weakness is a signal to shift into observation mode: repeat to yourself 'detach, detach, detach' and try to find the exact words to describe the experience, which can be what they're doing or how you're feeling.]

[Relatedness has no objective of a satisfying emotional exchange.]

Part of Lindsay C. Gibson: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents.

Tuesday, October 5, 2021

Monday, October 4, 2021

Sunday, October 3, 2021