[Parental rejection can result in the child lacking confidence that others can be interested in them. Instead of asking for what they want, they avoid interacting out kf fear to burden someone else.]

[The need and desire for deep connection is not merely human, but genetic, coming from evolutionary imperative to be part of the group for survival.]

[Dismissively saying that one didn't mean it is a way to egocentrically focus on the intention as opposed to the negative impact of bad actions.]

[Not knowing who you are or being given space to explore it is like having puzzle pieces that don't fit together, which results in inconsistency.]

[Inconsistency can maladaptively bond the parent and child because the once in a while there is a reward.]